not horny

[pinkbunny711]

if you can't get horny - ever - what's wrong with you? and how do you solve the huge problem????

[Liquidshadows]

:eek: That would be horrible:eek:

[OriginalSin]

i know plenty of girls who say they just are never in the mood to have sex.....they dont know what it is, either....
and i dont think we'll ever know.....


but i can give you some advice- do you look at porn, and if not maybe you should....
and any other advice would have to be after youi answered the question do you have a steady boyfriend?

[pinkbunny711]

ya we have been together for a year and a half and we just had a baby girl. i try to look at porn but i end up analyzing it and the ppl in it instead of trying to get off by it. i haven't found anything that works for me.

[triphop_femme]

Maybe it's the fact that you recently had a baby. A lot of momen lose their interest in sex after having children. Not ALL of them, mind you, but some.

[pinkbunny711]

ya it's just that i was like this before i had her. while i was pregnant i was kinda horny the first few months. but i even thought about it back then. now i don't even think about it. it's hurting my relationship and my stress level!

[triphop_femme]

Well, i'm sorry. i don't know what to tell you. 'Cos i don't care too much for sex as it is. i mean, if i want to get off, i can actually do it myself. So i don't have to worry about it. *shrugs* But as for your relationship, i would hope that the person you are with, the father of your child, would be understanding in the fact that maybe you just aren't able to get horny right now. And you shouldn't let something like this stress you out either. If you can't get horny, though, and he's craving...something...shit, give him head or a hand job.

[pinkbunny711]

no it's the fact that i can't use sex as a stress releaser. i have too much stress in my life not to have sex. and going for so long kinda upsets the both of us. i tried looking at the sports ill. swimsuit edition - didn't work. somebody help!

[snipersloth3]

Maybe it's your hormones... or diet... but kids are a good anti-aphrodesiac.

[triphop_femme]

Sports illustrated won't do shit. You need to get something better. Maxim could do it..or maybe Playboy? Shit..someone else said it, i think. Go get a porn flick. i mean, is it a problem of getting lubricated? Or is it that and not being horny?

[pinkbunny711]

ya i should talk to my doctor about getting something. how awful.

[pinkbunny711]

both

[pinkbunny711]

lube goes away too fast - all kinds. we've tried.

[Cinder]

HEAD!! good one MEG!

[angeldust]

Mabye you should try one of the pills that boost your labido. They also say that certian foods are natural aphrodisiacs, so mabye you can run a search and find recipes that may boost your labido.

[triphop_femme]

Yeah, i agree with angeldust. And..have you tried ALL lubrications? How about using a vibrator? Like, one with a clit stimulator?

[pinkbunny711]

i had a vibrator but i lost it when i moved. i should probably get another one. my boyfriend wants to do the threesome thing but i am so afraid i will like it too much and not want a man ever again. i heard you should lose all inhibitions when it comes to sex but.. i dono. ya i will do the search thing. i go on webmd and try to find out solutions to this problems but it seems as if no one can help.

[triphop_femme]

Oysters. i've heard that they work. But i'm not sure. Or you could just get a bottle of champaigne. You can also go to any adult novelty store. They have silly little viles of stuff that you can drink. Don't know if they'd work or not. Just take your boyfriend into one of those stores and walk around and look for a bit. You never know, just looking at some of the stuff together might get you in the mood.

[angeldust]

yeah oysters i have heard ar natural aphrodisiacs and chocolate.

[pinkbunny711]

how weird - i love chocolate

[Liquidshadows]

You know there's this drug that was invented by the pharmaceutical giant Merck that marriage counselors and sex therapists were using (and use in some countries) to treat problems like this... but then it got outlawed by the govt. so if you talk about it here the thread will get deleted. Random thought.

[pinkbunny711]

ya they have a lot of labido booster pills i just found online. but im kinda scared to spend money on any of them cause i doubt they work.

[kevinb70]

i left my first wife because she was dysfunctional. (well part she was compulsive spender) She couldn't even get off by herself.

she should consider herself lucky she got rid of me so easily, I know...

seriously... are you on any meds? esp antidepressants?

also see: http://plurplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41095

*slips on floor again*

ps tell him you want to do 2 guys.

or try anal... oh wait if you get with 2 guys you will more than likely be doing that...

[FrootLoop]

HaHa. Meg, your new name is Love Doctor.

[Ellen]

what kevin said....do you take any meds? you would be surprised at how much they affect things like that. also, if you are down, depression itself will really take away from your sex life. the best anti-depressent to take to avoid that problem is wellbutrin. it is about the only one that doesn't decrease your libido.

[kevinb70]

& serzone but i hear a larger percentage do better with welbutrin

[HellRaiza65]

the idea about goin to the "toy store" with your loved one is a good idea. n this may seem like the typical guy thing to say but have you two gotten drunk together lately? that can usually get ppl in the mood pretty quick. strawberries are good too.......n chocolate.....n more chocolate......yeah :D good luck n may the force be with you

[triphop_femme]

HaHa. Meg, your new name is Love Doctor.
YESSS!!!! Thanks!

[BGirl]

the idea about goin to the "toy store" with your loved one is a good idea. n this may seem like the typical guy thing to say but have you two gotten drunk together lately? that can usually get ppl in the mood pretty quick. strawberries are good too.......n chocolate.....n more chocolate......yeah :D good luck n may the force be with you

I was thinking the same thing, a night out on the town usually makes me feel sexy again and gives me a good buzz just enough to make me feel frisky with my man.

[triphop_femme]

Yeah, i'd have to agree with that as well. i remember times when i wasn't in the mood and i got drunk and even though i wasn't in the mood still, i was like, oh i don't fucking care, go ahead and do whatever! (with my boyfriend at the time, ofcourse)...*yikes*

[Forrest]

what you need is someone to smack the freak outta ya. for real.

[HellRaiza65]

Yeah, i'd have to agree with that as well. i remember times when i wasn't in the mood and i got drunk and even though i wasn't in the mood still, i was like, oh i don't fucking care, go ahead and do whatever! (with my boyfriend at the time, ofcourse)...*yikes*
:eek:

[pinkbunny711]

smack the freak out of me? no i think someone should put some freak IN me. i need something. ya and he is so against the two guys and a girl thing. oh well. maybe i should get drunk. i have only once since i had Joslin. it just wears me out so much b/c i am so tired already. i just started taking zoloft so i know it can't be that. i don't think i am depressed though. just sad. but my doctor says i have postpartum depression. we will try the "toy store". Anyone know how to get to Inserections in Atl.?

[BGirl]

Use mapquest, because there are several. The one at the corner of Cheshire Bridge and Piedmont is a cool one though.

Zoloft will have side effects that take away your sexual drive, it happened to my sister. She takes just Prozac now and it went away.

But yes, drunk does work. Just get really dressed up so ya feel really good and go someplace fun. PP depresion really sucks, but it is short lived, once you get into a routine it seems to go away pretty fast.

[pinkbunny711]

thanks girlie

[triphop_femme]

Yeah, the whole zoloft thing will do that to ya. i was on that, and Paxil. Both of those damn pills fuck you with you. i'd say get on something different. And i hope that you get over the sadness, and that everything works out sweets. But yeah...alcohol, play toys, and oysters. Ha ha ha.

[HellRaiza65]

AND BEER!!!!!!111!!!!!11!111111!1!1
......oh......she already said alcohol :twak:

[SXAngelXS]

do people that just dont ever get a tickle for sex exist. i guess they do, i have to say i find it hard to believe though. it really makes me sad for them

[pinkbunny711]

gee thanks. no i guess it's just the person who i am with. b/c when i think back, i have only been like this since i started dating him! seriously this is a huge problem.