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loneknight
10-29-2003, 03:39 PM
This is just a general question .why is it people cheat? I cant figure it out i mean if your with someone clearly you have good reason to be with them. then why throw it all away cause you cant keep your pants up? i mean i look at my track record i have never cheated on a girl .cause well first of all i have this pesky thing called morals. i mean i have to have strong feeling for a girl beforei sleep with em. you know but also i know that if i feel like i wanna cheat then it is better the end the relationship im in because it whould not be fair to the one im with but still every girl ive been when has cheated on me so i dont get it im sure alot of you can relate to this so respond back!!!!
saphirefaery
10-29-2003, 03:48 PM
I don't know the answer but it sure as hell better be a damn good one! I know what you mean, and what is really stupid is when you are with someone who has been cheated on before and was extremely hurt by this, and try your best to make sure they know you love them and care too much about them to ever hurt them, and THEN! THEY fuckin dump you because they need someone in their fuckin bed to screw whenever the hell they want. and also when someone (like the same someone mentioned before) hates it when people tell other people they love them when they know they don't they just wanna keep 'em in their bed. BUT that someone turns right around and does exactly that! OMFG!!!! stupid stupid mother fuckin dip shit!



yeah...but i really don't know why people cheat.... ??
loneknight
10-29-2003, 04:09 PM
i dont think anyone does do you people?
galaxygirl
10-29-2003, 09:31 PM
I dont know why guys cheat since I'm not one but I can speak for my self. I am not big on cheating. Its not a hobby of mine. But I have done it a few times. And I think I figured out why i do it atleast. Well some times things get boring in the sack with the asme person all the time. And instead of telling your mate this and hurting their feelings you go out and cheat. Yeah you might hurt them IF they ever found out but at the time you dont think that that could ever happen. Also there is one time during the monthe when I am in heat. And I am sure that every one knows what I am talking about when I say that. And believe it or not some times it can get pretty bad. During that time of the monthe..... The thought of sex never leaves my mind. i constantly think about it. And if I am not sexually satisfied with the relationship I am in I wont seek sexual gratification from the person I am with. During that time of the monthe females are fertile so animal nature says " Hey nows the eprfect time to get pregnant...... GO PROCREATE!" and your body wants it all the time. And thats totaly natural. But some times when your not satisfied with your guy you want some one you think will do it for you. But hey thats just me. I cant speak for every one else. But i know from experience that when I cheat those r my reasons.
gonzo23
10-29-2003, 11:13 PM
At least she's honest...
Kim
10-30-2003, 12:35 AM
I know that time. :twitch: It's hell, I say. HELL!

Kim
vapor
10-30-2003, 01:56 AM
tis better to be the cheater than the cheated... and a hell of a lot more satisfying.
turbo
10-30-2003, 02:01 AM
if they cheat once thell do it again. guys and girls. so dropem and leave em.
liquiddrawp
10-30-2003, 02:06 AM
take what people offer. if there was no game involved...it's not cheating..it's like a freebee.
FuckingBitch
10-30-2003, 08:26 AM
I've never cheated and I never will.... But this goes back to a couple of things I always say... But I'll make them not so biased:

1) If you cheat - it may just be immaturity on both sides. Not knokwing how to deal with the fact of a) not being with someone b) not feeling strong enought to tellt he truth. Most people I know have cheated in their lives before - but most of them when they were in their early 20's and such.

2) All men are dogs. All men are liars. All men are dogs and liars.... Until they meet the right woman...

And here's where I'm oddly being fair.

All women are bitches. All women are liars. All women are bitches and liars... And usually still are after they meet the right man.
Kibler
10-30-2003, 01:08 PM
quite simply, people cheat because they get themselves into situations they really don't want to be in. "relationships" are a social construct - the whole idea of an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend situation is shoved in our faces by the media as the proper path to happiness, so people end up longing for that construction more than they do the person him or herself. they just have a bf/gf because they think it's what they're supposed to do - so they realize that it's NOT what they want viscerally (genetically, we're certainly not coded to be monogomous...at least males aren't) and go out and fuck around...
loneknight
10-30-2003, 01:17 PM
i whould have to agree on most that stuff but we still dont know exactly why i mean got some good theorys though
FuckingBitch
10-30-2003, 03:01 PM
Well said. Well, except the smoking - because I smoke :p But, since I'm not trying to hook up with you, I'll overlook the comment :D

Also, I think most people worth having a relationship with are petrified of a relationship because of the mistreatment from previous partners. This includes both men and women. Maybe it's animal instinct to destroy something you percieve as weaker. And I guess respecting and caring about someone and putting them equal (becuase no one should ever be above you but God) to you is considered weakness.
saphirefaery
10-30-2003, 08:15 PM
I've thought about that before, but i just thought it one of my many ways of trying to have an excuse for everything 'a certain someone' does. but i guess since i'm not the only one who sees it this way... who knows...maybe he'll grow out of it.
straw
10-30-2003, 09:27 PM
cheating is wack. i mean if you are actually going to put forth the effort in having a so called relationship with someone, that person better damn well be worth your time. if not..what the fuck are you doing destroying someones emotions like that?! ya know?!
saphirefaery
10-30-2003, 09:57 PM
yeah...they don't care
FuckingBitch
10-31-2003, 08:08 AM
yeah...they don't care
As much as I'd like to agree, I know a friend of mine who cheated... And then went into a year deep depression because he felt so bad about it... Because he did care - and he knew there was no excuse for his actions.
saphirefaery
10-31-2003, 11:09 AM
:( dear god.
FuckingBitch
10-31-2003, 11:12 AM
Immaturity
saphirefaery
10-31-2003, 11:17 AM
very much
featherraver
10-31-2003, 12:07 PM
Cheating.....hmmm... sounds like someone is either trying justify it to themselves or is trying to figure out why it has happened to them....

Well...if you are justifying something you have done or want to do.. then there is no excuse as the bitch has afore mentioned...maybe I am being a little too Oriental and old fashioned in my thinking, but there is nothing honorable in deceit and nothing but pain and hurt are the unfortunate results...

Now, if you are the one that was cheated on... then the best thing to do is not to blame yourself and move on... trying to find the so called reason why your mate has cheated, although very admirable, is a journey spurned more out of revenge no matter how much you think your intentions good...I have been on that road too many times and the only result is more pain and further cause to get back at one's mate.... hence the beginning of the vicious cycle...

I have found in my (john here) many years and many failed relationships, that the number one cause of cheating... is boredom and the cheating party's inability to handle the fact that things are not aways going to be fiery hot all the time....

just some thoughts...
John
mojas4200
10-31-2003, 12:36 PM
it depends on the circumstances, if he/she is treating you like shit then do it cuz the relationship is just gonna end anyhow, now if your man/woman is sweating their ass off getting mortared every other night and u cheat on him your a fuckin peace of shit, you should be dragged out to the street and shot the pissed on and burned. but hey thats just a thought

this thread goes out to all the men and women over here in Iraq whose loved ones are home spending all their hard earned money and fucking "jody". fortunatly for me i got a girl who's trustworthy but i know a whole bunch of men who's wives and girls fuct them over badly, what a way to treat americas soldiers.

"we kill for peace" mojas4200 still in Iraq
loneknight
10-31-2003, 01:22 PM
well see thats the thing i thought my girl was trust worthy and i loved herm ore than anything and then this happened and i just walked away which is the best thing i chould have did but i dontk now i sortta feel empty dunno what that means though why cant i get int a relationship thatl eads to the lil house with the white picket fence and the 2.5 kids and a wife? it that tom uch to ask for to find someone like that?
FuckingBitch
10-31-2003, 01:42 PM
why cant i get int a relationship thatl eads to the lil house with the white picket fence and the 2.5 kids and a wife? it that tom uch to ask for to find someone like that?
Because that's a cookie-cutter fantasy and life isn't cookie-cutter.
loneknight
10-31-2003, 03:21 PM
yeah im sure its not but all im trying to find a girl not nessacarily to hook up with but get to know with the possibility of more youk now i want someone who like to have fun but also likes to stay home and watch a movie someone to talk to and someone that just generaly likes life if anyone is out there like that let me know
FuckingBitch
10-31-2003, 03:46 PM
Stop looking so hard :)

They come when you least expect it :)
loneknight
10-31-2003, 03:53 PM
yeah i think your right its just weird being in the whole single scene again youk now when you wantm orel ol thanks
FuckingBitch
10-31-2003, 04:26 PM
Enjoy your freedom :) Enjoy your solitude. Use it to strengthen your personal interests and inner self. I know it sounds cheezy... But! :) It's the most fulfilling thing you could ever do!
Kim
10-31-2003, 04:52 PM
They come when you least expect it :)
Like on your face? Sorry...bad joke, but I couldn't resist. You know I love you, D!!! ;)

Kim
loneknight
10-31-2003, 05:47 PM
such is life i guess i think ill concentrate more on my and myself than anything else and i think it will work out but you know what i realized

no one here ever gives me a shout out jk it dont matter just noticed it thats all
FuckingBitch
11-01-2003, 01:42 PM
Like on your face? Sorry...bad joke, but I couldn't resist. You know I love you, D!!! ;)

Kim
I like those shots, they help me make more money on my videos ;) :p
OriginalSin
11-01-2003, 07:46 PM
well, unlike most of you, i guess- i have cheated on ALMOST every person ive been with, Forrest is the exception-
and the reason why was because i didnt REALLY care about those ppl-and i wasnt ready for a realationship...if those factors arent there, whats stopping you?


i think thats basically why people cheat- the truth hurts, but thats what it is.
straw
11-03-2003, 12:33 PM
well, unlike most of you, i guess- i have cheated on ALMOST every person ive been with, Forrest is the exception-
and the reason why was because i didnt REALLY care about those ppl-and i wasnt ready for a realationship...if those factors arent there, whats stopping you?


i think thats basically why people cheat- the truth hurts, but thats what it is.

i agree. after all..if you dont truly love and care for the person you are with, basically that person is your sex toy and you know it!!
straw
11-03-2003, 12:40 PM
and may i add... its a security blankey for most people to just be in a relationship. They feel they need the company that comes along with it, and all the added bonuses. Which isnt a bad thing..its miles on the odometer of experience. ack..i forgot where i was going with this...ill shut up now.
loneknight
11-03-2003, 01:25 PM
buth ow can you cheat i mean dont it at least feel wrong i mean feelings or none i mean you still know it aint kool right?