Do you think people turn gay..or is it in their genes and they are born with it?

[DjStephenDaniel]

I think that people are born gay..thats just me. I'm not gay. Just to clear that up:rolleyes: . And i dont have any shit against gay people, i actually think they are some of the easiest people in the world to get along with. But theres a lot of gay guys and girls i know that have claimed to have been born gay, they've been gay since before they could even remember. I mean, ive heard of people turning gay, but i think that is from them always having some sort of sexual tendancy for the same sex that is out of the norm since they were born. Either being too scared to admit it, or not knowing of it yet. i think people are born gay

[XxX Kristy XxX]

Umm Im going with born gay. I think its always in you. I mean I know there are some folks that tend to just try it out cuz they want to experience that, but I think that if u are trully gay then u were born with it. I remember when I was really young I would watch the females on tv and droolover them. I didnt realized I was lesbian then. I didnt realize I was completely lesbian until I was 16. I mean my first experience was when I was 14 but I guess the more I explored then I saw what was me. Im VERY proud to be who I am and I dont hide it what so ever.

[DjStephenDaniel]

lol, i knew that TasteDaWainbo was gonna be one of the FIRST people to reply on this post. lol. But thats really cool, you shouldnt hide it. Be proud of who you are.

[XxX Kristy XxX]

hehe i know right. if u see the word gay, bi, or lesbian on a thread then u know my ass is up in there posting. hehe..:)

yah ppl shouldnt feel ashamed. we all are not the same. just cuz some are gay doesnt mean they are bad ppl. i just wish more folks would come out and quit being so scared.

[DjStephenDaniel]

i mean, again, dont get me wrong i am NOT gay. Not that being gay is a bad thing, but i think that everyone is attracted to the same sex is SOME SORT of way. weather it being emotionally or physically or something else. Doesn't mean that they are you're sexual preference. it just means that you think that they are good looking, or really nice or whatever...

[XxX Kristy XxX]

True. I know exactly what u mean. I think the same thing.

[krystal]

I think a person is born with it.................for as long as I can remember I've always had sexual feelings for both genders but I've always been very open with who I am..............but I also grew up with 2 very openly gay family members.........so it has always been excepted, which I'm very greatful for

[Jadea]

I think u are born gay.

[Kep]

Are some of y'all serious ? How can relate someone's personality traits to a gene. That's not what being gay is, it's not just a trait like hair color or skin tone. People's personality's are influenced and molded from day one of birth by those surrounding them and those who actually have an impact on their thoughts and decisions. Becoming gay is a decision made from sexual preferences and what arouses that individual. Now if being born were the case you would have to tell me that that infant is sexually aroused by the opposite sex that young ? ( Come on now ) Children that young are not capable nor does it even cross their mind as to the decision of which sex they would prefer. Bottom line is I believe that decision is made from past experiences throughout life and past influences. And a big part has to do with your growing up.

ext - Now granted some might be light in the loafers or a bit feminine if you know what I mean and who knows what effects that might have but I have met many a person who is like that and isn't nessecarily gay.

Now don't take this post like I'm trying to bash on anyone's opinion in any ways because that's not how it was meant.

[scottB]

Are some of y'all serious ? How can relate someone's personality traits to a gene. That's not what being gay is, it's not just a trait like hair color or skin tone. People's personality's are influenced and molded from day one of birth by those surrounding them and those who actually have an impact on their thoughts and decisions. Becoming gay is a decision made from sexual preferences and what arouses that individual. Now if being born were the case you would have to tell me that that infant is sexually aroused by the opposite sex that young ? ( Come on now ) Children that young are not capable nor does it even cross their mind as to the decision of which sex they would prefer. Bottom line is I believe that decision is made from past experiences throughout life and past influences. And a big part has to do with your growing up.

ext - Now granted some might be light in the loafers or a bit feminine if you know what I mean and who knows what effects that might have but I have met many a person who is like that and isn't nessecarily gay.

Now don't take this post like I'm trying to bash on anyone's opinion in any ways because that's not how it was meant.

It is definitely a choice.

[DiamondMaverick]

Well I am bi-sexual and did not choose to be so...sometimes still I wish I was totally straight. I DO choose to pursue my attraction though. I feel like my ATTRACTION to both men and women make me bi-sexual whether I choose to act on these desires or not.

Thinking back, as long as have had actual sexual attraction, I have been attracted to both guys and girls. It was NOT a choice...When I was in high school I actually used to pray to God that I wasn't a lesbian. (I thought all lesbians were butch. LOL) I didn't fully admit to myself that I was bi until I was about 20.

So I guess I was born like this. It certainly was not in any way encouraged in my household or environment, so that is my only explanation.

It IS however, my choice to be open about my bisexuality.

[Jadea]

Are some of y'all serious ? How can relate someone's personality traits to a gene. That's not what being gay is, it's not just a trait like hair color or skin tone. People's personality's are influenced and molded from day one of birth by those surrounding them and those who actually have an impact on their thoughts and decisions. Becoming gay is a decision made from sexual preferences and what arouses that individual. Now if being born were the case you would have to tell me that that infant is sexually aroused by the opposite sex that young ? ( Come on now ) Children that young are not capable nor does it even cross their mind as to the decision of which sex they would prefer. Bottom line is I believe that decision is made from past experiences throughout life and past influences. And a big part has to do with your growing up.

ext - Now granted some might be light in the loafers or a bit feminine if you know what I mean and who knows what effects that might have but I have met many a person who is like that and isn't nessecarily gay.

Now don't take this post like I'm trying to bash on anyone's opinion in any ways because that's not how it was meant.Well, OF COURSE, we don't come out of the womb knowing what we are attracted to. But, as u grow older, thats when u start to figure out what u are attracted to. U figure it out..by YOURSELF, not by ur mom or dad, or friends..but, u figure it out, by the way ur body responds to certain things. I personally figured it out really early in life..but, I most certainly don't remember CHOOSING to be attracted to what I am. It just happened..

ALSO, I can say, that when I first started to have these feelings for females, I was shocked and scared. I was also confused. I remember praying and HOPING that the feelings would past. But, they didn't..and I just figured out, that u can't help what u are attracted to. AS far as influence being a FACTOR in determining whether u are straight, gay, or bi or whatever. I personally was never taught about homosexuality, nor did I have any OPENLY gay relatives to "INFLUENCE" my decisions. ALso I wasn't RAPED nor MOLESTED....so all of that MUMBO JUMBO that people say determines whether u are gay, straight, or BI I didn't experience.. so why do I find females attractive?

[scottB]

So, why are all men and women born with the "tools" to reproduce? We as men and women are created to reproduce. If this is true then why would we be born gay? Homosexuality is adaptation not an inborn trait. And the biggest factor in choosing to be gay is your enviornment.

[Jadea]

So, why are all men and women born with the "tools" to reproduce? We as men and women are created to reproduce. If this is true then why would we be born gay? Homosexuality is adaptation not an inborn trait. And the biggest factor in choosing to be gay is your enviornment.


Enviornment? So what type of environment do u think makes a person CHOOSE to be gay?

[dr00]

Well, OF COURSE, we don't come out of the womb knowing what we are attracted to. But, as u grow older, thats when u start to figure out what u are attracted to. U figure it out..by YOURSELF, not by ur mom or dad, or friends..but, u figure it out, by the way ur body responds to certain things. .. so you basically agree with him.... that's special

[Jadea]

so you basically agree with him.... that's special
No, I don't agree with him, I said, u figure it out by, ur attraction to certain things, not by ur PAST INFLUENCES OR EXPERIENCES.

[scottB]

Enviornment? So what type of environment do u think makes a person CHOOSE to be gay?#1. Male child reared in a female enviornment
#2. As mentioned before, homosexual family members


Alot of homsexuals also have an instance of sexual abuse while growing up.

But you avoided my questions.......

[DiamondMaverick]

#1. Male child reared in a female enviornment
#2. As mentioned before, homosexual family members


Alot of homsexuals also have an instance of sexual abuse while growing up.

But you avoided my questions.......
1. I'm not a male child so I cannot answer that question.

2. I have no homosexual family members that I know of.

And NO I was never sexually abused.

BTW Scott B, did you know that homosexuality is also present in animals? That Secretariat, the famous race horse was gay? There is also a type of Japanese monkey that sometimes forms lesbian relationships/family situations. I did not know that animals have the logic to make that choice as well.

We all know that there can be deviations in the "normal" making of a person...just b/c you have certain body parts doesn't mean that your attraction cannot deviate from most. There are things about DNA and genes that we simply do not understand...you cannot make the assumption that sexuality is a choice, especially when yours is that of the "norm".

[Jadea]

#1. Male child reared in a female enviornment
#2. As mentioned before, homosexual family members


Alot of homsexuals also have an instance of sexual abuse while growing up.

But you avoided my questions.......

Well, lemme comment on these two things u just said...I have a two parent home, my parents are open with love and affection, also and I didn't even know about homosexuality until later in my teenage years. So what is the reason for MY homsexual expreiences? The point I am tryin to say, People, can't be influenced when it comes to THEIR OWN sexual attraction. Thats like saying, if u were born into a household, and ur parents where into beastiality, then because of ur surroundings u should be into that too?! OR Because, ur mom or dad likes BLONDES u should too?!

Now, I will answer ur previous question.

Yes, male and females are born with the tools to reproduce..okay..so u are saying if they are gay, that they can't have children? Granted it may not be the "traditonal"way, but homsexuals CAN have children. ALso, can I say, that if being GAY was determined by ur surroundings and past influences, that there should be more homsexuals. Their are so many people who grow up in broken homes, and are abused sexually...I think the number is ridiculously (ms) high...so..why isn't half the pop, gay? or more than half?

[scottB]

1. I'm not a male child so I cannot answer that question.

2. I have no homosexual family members that I know of.

And NO I was never sexually abused.

BTW Scott B, did you know that homosexuality is also present in animals? That Secretariat, the famous race horse was gay? There is also a type of Japanese monkey that sometimes forms lesbian relationships/family situations. I did not know that animals have the logic to make that choice as well.

We all know that there can be deviations in the "normal" making of a person...just b/c you have certain body parts doesn't mean that your attraction cannot deviate from most. There are things about DNA and genes that we simply do not understand...you cannot make the assumption that sexuality is a choice, especially when yours is that of the "norm".

IMO opinion, I do not think it is very informative to look at animal behaviors to find out what is "normal". We can drive, fly planes, talk, play golf and many many other things that animals can not do. Is that considered abnormal that an animal can't do those things? We could study any sexual behavior among humans and find instances of it happening in the animal world.

Here are some questions I came across while doing some research a while back:
Though wolves and beavers generally keep a mate for life, most mammals copulate with multiple partners thoughout their sexual careers. Is nature serving as a model for promiscuity? Rhinoceri mate continiously for one and a half hours. The male ejaculates numerious times with his two-feet-long penis. For chimpanzees, it is all over in less than 30 seconds. Which scenario provides the "natural" model for humans? The female Praying Mantis decapitates the male and eats his head during copulation as a form of fodder. (His nether parts continue to thrust). Is nature saying that males should literally lose their heads in love? Should sex literally consume us? Is the Mantis' nature a wry comments on the value of male's brains? The male porcupine will thoroughly douse the female with uring before mating. (No comment). Cobras of both sexes strike at each other for an hour or more before mating. Is nature advocating S & M?You really can't bring animal behavior into a "human" way of life.

[scottB]

Well, lemme comment on these two things u just said...I have a two parent home, my parents are open with love and affection, also and I didn't even know about homosexuality until later in my teenage years. So what is the reason for MY homsexual expreiences? The point I am tryin to say, People, can't be influenced when it comes to THEIR OWN sexual attraction. Thats like saying, if u were born into a household, and ur parents where into beastiality, then because of ur surroundings u should be into that too?! OR Because, ur mom or dad likes BLONDES u should too?!

Now, I will answer ur previous question.

Yes, male and females are born with the tools to reproduce..okay..so u are saying if they are gay, that they can't have children? Granted it may not be the "traditonal"way, but homsexuals CAN have children. ALso, can I say, that if being GAY was determined by ur surroundings and past influences, that there should be more homsexuals. Their are so many people who grow up in broken homes, and are abused sexually...I think the number is ridiculously (ms) high...so..why isn't half the pop, gay? or more than half?
Your parents don't have an influence on you? They try to bring you up in way they think is right. If they practise beastiality then chances are you might think it's ok. If they like blondes then chances are they will influence you to like blondes.


The whole process of reproduction isn't the important thing here. Yes same sex couples can have children but what about their bloodlines? They stop.
Half the pop isn't gay because they didn't make the CHOICE to live that lifestyle.

[Liquidshadows]

I remember reading that homosexuals (I think most of the time, maybe almost always) have a part of their brain that is enlarged. The kicker is that although most people with this trait are gay some are not, and conversely the percentage of gays with this trait is not 100%. Unfortunately I don't remember the article at all. I think there is both a natural inclination at work as well as and element of choice involved. One way or the other I see nothing wrong with homosexual life styles. We should all do what comes naturally without beating ourselves up or judging others. Myself, I have never met a man I'm attracted to. I'm about to turn 27 and I spent 5 of those years in New Orleans where homosexuality is pretty much normal and accepted so I'm pretty sure I never will.

[XxX Kristy XxX]

I dont think it is a choice. I mean it is a choice whether u want to come out about it or not but thats it. I have no clue why I am a lesbian. I just know it started when I was very young. I think the first time I looked a girl in that way and I remember was when I was 6. I was in love with the girls from Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. Hehe

All I know is I didnt wake up one day and say hey I want to be a lesbian. It just happened to me.

[Liquidshadows]

You'll get no argument from me, I'm just making my best guess on a question that may never be answered definitavely. It may not even happen the same way for all people. Some might be born one way or the other, some may have to make a choice, although those may actually be bi. I had a friend who from 15 to 22 was an adamant lesbian. One day she shocked the hell out of me by introducing me to her boyfriend, who she eventually married. I honestly think she was more surprised than I was.

[scottB]

I dont think it is a choice. I mean it is a choice whether u want to come out about it or not but thats it. I have no clue why I am a lesbian. I just know it started when I was very young. I think the first time I looked a girl in that way and I remember was when I was 6. I was in love with the girls from Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. Hehe

All I know is I didnt wake up one day and say hey I want to be a lesbian. It just happened to me.

As an infant we all can see, hear, and feel. We began hording info that tells us who we are. We can also sense peace, warmth, comfort, and love as well as disturbance, tension, anger, and fear. This does not cause someone to be gay but it can lay the foundation for problems later on.

An infants early life is spent getting a secure bond of love with the mother that leads to a healthy sense of who we are. With a good, firm grasp of there identity and confidence in knowing that his/her needs for love and care will be met, a child has a good foundation for future growth and developement.

If there is some sort of disruption in these early years, the child is vulnerable to to alot of different problems and what the problems may be depends on the childs temperament. It could result in the child withdrawing, or being very agreesive or having uncontrolable emotion. And this can drive the child to try to connect to another person, to find his/her identity in this person.

[XxX Kristy XxX]

welp i do know that my rents fought a lot when i was younger. it didnt stop until i was 15. my dad was an alchy and beat my mom. i used to fight my dad when i was younger.
i can see where u are coming from. i think what u said affects my situation a lot. i just dont see how some folks like using amarys for example become like that. oh well. i wont try to understand. i just know what i am now and will always be.

[scottB]

welp i do know that my rents fought a lot when i was younger. it didnt stop until i was 15. my dad was an alchy and beat my mom. i used to fight my dad when i was younger.
i can see where u are coming from. i think what u said affects my situation a lot. i just dont see how some folks like using amarys for example become like that. oh well. i wont try to understand. i just know what i am now and will always be.
If this is what is truly making you happy then I wish nothing but the best for you. But alot of sexual identity struggles come from a lack of "connection" with mother or father. A breakdown in the bond with the mother affects so much and the bond is so very important. Males born with a sensitive nature may feel alienated from their father because he is seen as "tough". If the father senses this then more than likely the male child will have serious sexual identity problems. And if the female doesn't form that important bond with her mother the same thing can happen.

Some daughters are not born all sweet and innocent. Some come out kicking and screaming indicating an agressive infant. Sometimes a mother will not accept the fact that her daughter is aggressive and the infant can sense this causing her to feel rejected and alienating herself from her mother even more. This will cause the female to cut herself off from the love she needs to help her grasp her sexual identity. This leaves her with a loss of same sex love causing her to seek that motherly love in the form of a lesbian relationship.

[Jadea]

Your parents don't have an influence on you? They try to bring you up in way they think is right. If they practise beastiality then chances are you might think it's ok. If they like blondes then chances are they will influence you to like blondes.


The whole process of reproduction isn't the important thing here. Yes same sex couples can have children but what about their bloodlines? They stop.
Half the pop isn't gay because they didn't make the CHOICE to live that lifestyle.
First off some people choose to act on their homosexual urges and some choose not too....But, U can't say, that the reason u HAVE those urges are because ur mom didn't give u enough love, or because ur dad was around when u were younger.

[*MeL*]

NOT trying to really argue this persay-arguing over this is pointless to an extent because EVERYONE has different opinions on what they believe.
I have gay friends, bisexual friends and straight friends-all whom I love dearly. Keep that in mind.
BUT you show me scientific proof that has been tested, retested and then retested again that shows that we as humans are born with a GENE that "makes" us homosexual and THEN and only then will I believe that a human is born gay. Sure parts of the brain may be enlarged in some homosexuals, but enlargement of the brain is ALSO associated with psychological problems as well.
To say that an environment doesn't help to mold a child is ignorant. Take a Life Span Developmental class and you will learn about this a LOT. From day ONE of a infants birth, their environment and the people in their lives are molding their future-positive or negative.
To bring in the issue of animals-dogs hump peoples legs, so should WE? Is that normal for us? Bonobos (a form of chimp) humps other bonobos (males on males, females on females, mothers on sons and so on)-that doesn't make them "homosexual" or guilty of molesting a infant chimp-it's just their way of socialzing.
But like I said-show me scientific data-and THEN I will believe that one is born gay. :)

[scottB]

First off some people choose to act on their homosexual urges and some choose not too....But, U can't say, that the reason u HAVE those urges are because ur mom didn't give u enough love, or because ur dad was around when u were younger.

I never said that it caused you to be gay. I said it has an affect. That lack of love could cause someone to choose alot of different things. Not just be gay.

[Jadea]

U know, NO ONE REALLY KNOWS why there is homosexuality. But, I think it just kills me, to hear someone say, that u are a homosexual because of ur past experiences...I mean, all I am saying is u can't teach someone to be straight..or homosexual..it just depends on what they are attracted to..Now, question IS how do past life expriences affect ur sexual attraction to things?

[*MeL*]

Well then if that's the case....then I personally have room to talk. :)
Oh and...it was a CHOICE-I wasn't BORN wanting to do it.
But that's in the past-over and DONE with. But I do have room to talk.

[scottB]

Also, are u homosexual?! Or have u ever had a homosexual experience?! If not, then u REALLY don't have any room to tell someone where they developed their sexual preferences or attractions. Because like anything in life, if u haven't experienced it yourself U REALLY HAVE NO CLUE!
No
No

The last I checked this was a thread about if you could be born gay or not. I said it was a choice and I gave reasons why I thought it was. I never said I was right or wrong. And I'm not telling you how to live your life. Don't get upset because I posted valid reasons to why we are who we are.

[Jadea]

Well then if that's the case....then I personally have room to talk. :)
Oh and...it was a CHOICE-I wasn't BORN wanting to do it.
But that's in the past-over and DONE with. But I do have room to talk.

That wasn't directed towards u..it was towards Scott..But, U did make a CHOICE..but, all I am saying is..why did u make the choice that u made? Was it because u were ATTRACTED to that female or was it because, it was just the cool thing to do and everyone around u seem to be having same sex relations?

[scottB]

That wasn't directed towards u..it was towards Scott..But, U did make a CHOICE..but, all I am saying is..why did u make the choice that u made? Was it because u were ATTRACTED to that female or was it because, it was just the cool thing to do and everyone around u seem to be having same sex relations?
You're getting way off topic now. This isn't about why we made the choice we made but can you be born gay or not. And you have yet to give me reasons why you are or are not gay.

[*MeL*]

Like Scott said-the thread is about if you believe you are BORN gay or not. Not if I or anyone else had experiences based on choice or it being the cool thing to do.
So let's stick to the topic at hand. Someone show me proof. Because the way I see it, Scott has EVERYONE beat by a long shot.

[Jadea]

No
No

The last I checked this was a thread about if you could be born gay or not. I said it was a choice and I gave reasons why I thought it was. I never said I was write or wrong. And I'm not telling you how to live your life. Don't get upset because I posted valid reasons to why we are who we are.


I think the thread says, Do u think people TURN gay..or is it in their genes and they are born with it. I don't really think I was gettin off the topic because, when I asked if u were homosexual or have u had any expeirences, it was because if u HAD, you could really think about ur own situation and then think about when u started to start having certain emotions...It just seems that people who haven't really been in a situation such as this really don't know....*shrugs* i dunno...Also, I am not gettin mad..just really gettin into this topic.

[Jadea]

Like Scott said-the thread is about if you believe you are BORN gay or not. Not if I or anyone else had experiences based on choice or it being the cool thing to do.
So let's stick to the topic at hand. Someone show me proof. Because the way I see it, Scott has EVERYONE beat by a long shot.
Well, like Scott said, previously, I am not saying I am right or wrong, just stating MY opinion. But, I think that the attraction is the basis for it all, because without having the attraction, WHY would u do it? Also, the attraction isn't something that can be learned...reguardless of how perfect ur family is.

[scottB]

I think the thread says, Do u think people TURN gay..or is it in their genes and they are born with it. I don't really think I was gettin off the topic because, when I asked if u were homosexual or have u had any expeirences, it was because if u HAD, you could really think about ur own situation and then think about when u started to start having certain emotions...It just seems that people who haven't really been in a situation such as this really don't know....*shrugs* i dunno...Also, I am not gettin mad..just really gettin into this topic.

I understand what you're sayin as well. But what does having expierence in the situation prove?

[scottB]

Well, like Scott said, previously, I am not saying I am right or wrong, just stating MY opinion. But, I think that the attraction is the basis for it all, because without having the attraction, WHY would u do it? Also, the attraction isn't something that can be learned...reguardless of how perfect ur family is.
Attraction? Since some of us like to use animals in this discussion I think I will too. What if for some reason you were walking down the street and you saw a dog and you thought to yourself "damn that dog is HOT". Would you act on your attraction then? Nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. Hell I think David Beckham is HOT as hell. Does that mean I wanna date him? No. Don't confuse your attraction to someone as a valid reason to choose to be homosexual.

[Jadea]

You're getting way off topic now. This isn't about why we made the choice we made but can you be born gay or not. And you have yet to give me reasons why you are or are not gay.

All I am saying, is..when u are born, u don't think about sex..all u want is to play and etc...But, when u first START to have sexual feelings, I am sure u didn't CHOOSE, to have those feelings. They just happened.

[scottB]

All I am saying, is..when u are born, u don't think about sex..all u want is to play and etc...But, when u first START to have sexual feelings, I am sure u didn't CHOOSE, to have those feelings. They just happened.

But the bond with your mother as an infant affects your sexuality later on in life.

[Jadea]

Attraction? Since some of us like to use animals in this discussion I think I will too. What if for some reason you were walking down the street and you saw a dog and you thought to yourself "damn that dog is HOT". Would you act on your attraction then? Nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. Hell I think David Beckham is HOT as hell. Does that mean I wanna date him? No. Don't confuse your attraction to someone as a valid reason to choose to be homosexual.
If I look at someone and I think ,wow their pretty or wow they are kute, I would say, I am admiring their beauty, I wouldn't say I am attracted to them. So maybe I should change say, sexual attraction.

[Jadea]

But the bond with your mother as an infant affects your sexuality later on in life.
REALLY?? I didn't know that, which book did u read that in? If that was the case, I should be straight as an arrow.

[*MeL*]

Okay-Like I said, take a Life Span Developmental class and then you or anyone MIGHT have a greater understanding as to what Scott is trying to say.
Hell, take a Theories of Personality class too-that will also explain a lot.
Trust vs. Mistrust-Erik Ericcson....look it up too. :)
K, thanks.

[Jadea]

Hmm...so I guess, I should check that book out. Maybe it will have all the answers to my questions, and the asnwer to the question on this board. OO wait, there REALLY are no definte answers, there are only peoples opinions and studies. So maybe, u are born gay MAYBE ur not....I guess, no one REALLY knows...

[scottB]

REALLY?? I didn't know that, which book did u read that in? If that was the case, I should be straight as an arrow.
Let me rephrase, your bond with your mother as an infant CAN affect your sexuality preference.

[Jadea]

Let me rephrase, Your bond with your mother as an infant CAN affect your you sexuality preference.
I gotcha..it CAN...;)

[XxX Kristy XxX]

My mother and I have a VERY strong bond. She is one of my bestfriends and being lesbian does make me happy. Believe me, I am so proud of being who I am. I wont hide it for anyone.
I dont really know what to say. I read in a Psychology book once that it came from ur genes but then again I have to agree wif Mel cuz well she takes that stuff. Who knows.

[DiamondMaverick]

IMO opinion, I do not think it is very informative to look at animal behaviors to find out what is "normal".
You are TOTALLY missing my point. The point is that you said it is a choice that people make. Animals, lacking the mental capacity and logic that humans have, also have exceptions of homosexuals in their pouplation. Are you telling me that those animals made the CHOICE as well?

IMO, neither side has concrete evidence of what causes homo or bi sexuality. It could be something as simple as genetic population control. *shrugs*